“Selfie” by Will Storr is the greatest book you haven’t read yet …

I stumbled upon this book “Selfie: How We Became So Self Obsessed and What It’s Doing To Us” by author Will Storr in Paris, FR at Shakespeare and Co. last year.


The cover of the book is bit of marketing gimmick – it’s not really about the social Facebook/Instagram age, rather it’s about the narrative history of self-identity and personal psychology in Western society. 

Storr makes the argument the “I” generation derived out of Ancient Greece, which later led to things like the Esalen Institute in the 1980s, which gave birth to people like Joseph Campbell, Aldeous Huxley, Ayn Rand, Alan Greenspan, and Steve Jobs, among other people and ideas which dominate our culture.  There is strong evidence for his arguments.  He traces many connections, too much to get into detail here.

Storr writes about how many modern psychologist believe there is no one true self, rather we’re a reflection of many parts of ourselves in different situations.  Thus, there is no core “I” as we’re a bunch of multiple personality types which arise in different contexts.  So, the “I” generation, Storr argues, is based on a lie perpetuated for a variety of reasons.  It’s a false belief.

The book explores darker subjects such as reasons for suicides (when our personal narrative goes awry) and the overall narrative of the “self” that we all tell ourselves.  

Highly recommend this book to those with the interest.

NY Times 25 Best Films of 21st Century?

This is somewhat of a bizarre article list of movies entitled “The 25 Best Films of 21st Century So Far” from NY Times movie critics Manohla Dargis and A.O. Scott – The 40-Year Old Virgin

From their list, these are the only four I thought were exceptional (a few I have not yet seen):

Boyhood (2014, dir. Richard Linklater), Summer Hours (2008, dir. Olivier Assayas), Three Times (2005, dir. Hou Hsiao-hsien), Mad Max: Fury Road (2015, dir. George Miller).

American Health Care System is a Rip-Off

The NY Times published a detailed article showing that the key reason for our current health care cost epidemic is not because people are getting sicker and using more medical services, rather it’s simply the costs that keep going up —

“A single-payer system could also regulate prices. If attempted nationally, or even in a state, either of these would be met with resistance from all those who directly benefit from high prices, including physicians, hospitals, pharmaceutical companies — and pretty much every other provider of health care in the United States.”

Elder Financial Abuse & Wealthy Boomers

I recently came across a book on Amazon entitled The Wolf at the Door: Undue Influence and Elder Financial Abuse by California lawyer, Michael Hackard.  It’s just unfortunate anyone even needs to write a book on this stuff, but it’s happening more frequently. 

We live in a ruthless “dog eat dog” society with questionable morality.  Many parts of our society are corrupt in one way or another and elder financial abuse is a symptom of that overall decay.

I had to deal with it when my beloved aunt (a wealthy boomer) reached the end back in 2011. Some scoundrel like relatives (the ‘wolves’) didn’t like her final wishes and foisted themselves at her bedside (she was blind & had dementia) and used ‘influence’ to get her to sign a ‘revised’ amendment to her trust and will papers, which enriched some in the family and cheated others. A “new” lawyer, solicited by the wolves, was glad to help with it, too.

While this sounds heinous, the current legal system essentially legalizes elder financial abuse by making it so expensive to contest in court.  Hundreds of thousands in legal fees just to start a lawsuit.

Elder financial abuse is looked upon as a “business” opportunity for the lawyers involved, either in defending or prosecuting it.  Even if you win, there is no real set punitive penalty against the bad actors.  And the best witness to testify – the victim – is dead.  So good luck!

If you don’t have the money to file suit (and which would likely take years), the ‘wolves’ get away with it.  I guess that’s why so many people are doing it – family members, caregivers, nurses, lawyers, etc.

Our society doesn’t seem to respect the elderly much.   It’s sad.  Elder financial abuse is only going to become more frequent in years to come. 

And, be forewarned, it’s usually the ordinary church going types – the ones you least expect  – that commit these greedy acts.   They will sit there and look at you and proclaim their devout holiness, as they reach around behind your back, hold up grandmas hand and ‘help’ her sign her revised will.

Read this recent article from MarketWatch about one person’s account of elder financial abuse and how they were cheated.  It happens every day.

Family Law Equality Reform in 20 States

The Washington Post published an article stating “more than 20 states in 2017 considered laws to promote shared equal (50/50) custody of children after divorce.”

Some states, Kentucky, for instance, already have passed 50/50 shared parenting laws as the presumption, which is a giant leap forward to parental equality. 

This issue is, unfortunately, hard to grasp until you’re subjected to it as a parent.  

One learns quickly fathers (men) are almost always subjected to being the non-custodial parent (NCP) 90% of the time, according the last US Census Report, so there is a gender bias. 

Fathers are, generally, considered to be “inferior” to mothers and not worthy of being the custodial parent (CP).

Family lawyers will bill parents into poverty (or even bankruptcy) fighting for your rights, with little regard for how that financial cost itself negatively impacts the children’s financial futures.  Kids don’t earn incomes.

The courts don’t care either: the average custody case can cost upwards of $50,00 dollars (per parent) in legal fees, with some going even higher.  It all comes out of the kids’ pockets, one way or another, either now or later.  

The system makes parents fight to be named the CP, because the CP gets all the financial breaks and the majority of possession time, whereas the NCP gets shafted. 

kidsThe family law system is built upon inequity.

Every prominent child psychologist says shared (equal  50/50) parenting is in the best interest of the child.  

Illinois currently has a shared parenting bill and it looks like it may pass.


Vitorrio De Sica: Garden of Finzi Contini

FinziContini“The thing is, you can’t count on anything. And nothing permanent can be permitted to take place during this period of waiting.

De Sica’s film creates a feeling of nostalgia for a lost time and place, but it isn’t the nostalgia of looking back. It’s the nostalgia of the time itself, when people still inhabiting their world could sense it slipping away, and already missed what they had not yet lost.”

-excerpt from Roger Ebert’s review of The Garden of Finzi Contini (1971) by director Vitorrio De Sica, who also directed The Leopard (1963), perhaps his best film about the passing of time.